Francesca, I'm so sorry that yourself and women everywhere, have to go through so many hoops, just to be safe. As a man, I empathize, I try to understand it from the female perspective as best as I can, and I try to learn from great articles such as yours, so that I can be a better man. Men, collectively, need to be better. There's no question about it. I wish everyone reading this well. Please stay safe.